Be particularly cautious if he's already looking for Spouse #2. Periods of adjustment are to be expected, especially if things heat up.We all need time to heal and don't want to plunge blindly into the rebound relationship. But extreme discomfort, acting out, and outright interference may signal issues just beneath the surface. We would be wise to observe their reactions, heed their reasoned warnings, and consider their hesitation. If you each have children at different stages -- for example, your kids are in elementary school and his are in college -- anticipate some potential problems if you're hoping for a long-term relationship.You may consider bringing the child a small gift to show your good will and sincere interest in him, such as baseball cards for a collector or new crayons for an aspiring artist.
While it’s not always easy, try your best to be understanding and remember that there’s no need to feel threatened by his past.
Be aware of when the divorce happened There’s a difference between being separated for a few months and being divorced for several years. If you’re finding he is talking a lot about his ex-wife or his marriage, he may need more time to move on before starting a new relationship.
Be prepared for meeting the ex When two people have children together, they nearly always have to remain in each other’s lives.
Another captured my heart (and still holds it, most tenderly).
And one remains a trusted friend to this day (and I'm glad).